What it means to “get a job”
In our culture we call entering the employment market “trying to get a job.” This is an unfortunate turn of phrase. “Getting a job” implies that jobs are a resource out in the world, and you’re attempting to secure one of these resources. But that’s completely backwards. What you are actually doing is selling your labor, and a company is bidding for it.
Employment is just striking a mutual deal in the labor market.
Like any market, the labor market only functions well if it’s competitive. This is the only way to ensure fair and equitable pricing. Imagine you were a farmer selling watermelons. Would you just sell your watermelons to the first buyer who agreed to purchase them’ Or would you survey the marketplace of buyers, see the best price (and business partner) you could get, and then make an informed decision on which buyer to sell to’
And yet, when people talk about the labor market, they think “oh, a company wants to give me a job! What a relief!” As though having a job were in itself some special privilege for which a company is the gatekeeper.
Dispel yourself of this mindset.
A job is just a deal. It is a deal between you and a company to exchange labor for money (and other things you value).
This might sound like an abstract point, but you should absolutely approach negotiation from this perspective.
The role of negotiation
Negotiating is a natural and expected part of the process of trying to make a deal. It’s also a signal of competence and seriousness. Companies generally respect candidates who negotiate, and most highly attractive candidates negotiate (if for no other reason, because they often have too many options to choose from).
At the risk of spouting truisms: always, always negotiate. Doesn’t matter how good or bad you think you are. You never damage a relationship by negotiating.
In all my time as an instructor at App Academy, out of hundreds of offers negotiated, only once or twice were offers ever rescinded in negotiations. It basically never happens. And when it does, usually the candidate was being an unconscionable asshole, or the company was imploding and needed an excuse to rescind the offer.
You might think to yourself: “well, I don’t want to set high expectations, and the offer is already generous, so I ought to just take it.”
Or maybe: “I don’t want to start off on the wrong foot and look greedy with my future employer.”
“But this company is small and — “
No. Shut up. Negotiate.
We’ll talk more in the next section about why a lot of these objections are BS, and fundamentally misapprehend the dynamics of hiring. But for now, just trust me that you should always negotiate.
The ten rules of negotiating
I’ve tried to boil down negotiation to ten rules. The rules, in order of appearance, are:
- Get everything in writing
- Always keep the door open
- Information is power
- Always be positive
- Don’t be the decision maker
- Have alternatives
- Proclaim reasons for everything
- Understand what they value
- Be motivated by more than just money
- Be winnable
We’ll only get through some of these in this blog post, and the rest will appear in the second part. But I’ll explain each rule as we get to it.
So let’s start from the top and try to walk through a negotiation process from the very beginning. For most, that starts when you receive an offer.
The offer conversation
You’ve just received the phone call: your interview went well, and after much deliberation they decided they like you. They want to make you an offer. Congratulations!
Don’t get too excited though. The fun is just getting started.
Thank your recruiter. Sound excited — hopefully this won’t be hard. Before jumping into details, try to ask for specific feedback on your interview performance. If they give it to you, this will help you gauge how much they want you, as well as tell you things you can improve on in your next interview(s).
Now time to explore the offer.
Rule #1 of negotiating: have everything in writing.
Eventually, they’ll give you information about the offer. Write it all down. Doesn’t matter if they’re going to send you a written version later, write everything down. Even if there are things that are not directly monetary, if they relate to the job, write them down. If they tell you “we’re working on porting the front-end to Angular,” write that down. If they say they have 20 employees, write that down. You want as much information as you can. You’ll forget a lot of this stuff, and it’s going to be important in informing your final decision.
Depending on the company, they’ll also tell you about the equity package. We’ll look more specifically at equity in part II, but be sure to write everything down.
The rule from here on out is that everything significant you discuss will have some kind of a paper trail. Often, the company won’t even send you an official offer letter until a deal is finalized. So it falls to you to confirm all of the important details in subsequent e-mails.
So yadda yadda, lots of details, writing stuff down, oh there’s a joke, time to laugh. Now the recruiter is done talking and you’re done asking all of your questions.
Your recruiter will now say something along the lines of “so what do you think’”
This seems innocuous, but your reply here is critical, because there’s a lot you can say to weaken your position. This is your first decision point.
A decision point is a moment in the negotiation where your interlocutor wants to compel you to make a decision. If they succeed in tying you to a position, they will close the door on further negotiating. Of course “what do you think’” is a subtle prod. But it is the beginning of many attempts to get you to make a premature commitment.
This leads to rule #2 of negotiating: always keep the door open. Never give up your negotiating power until you’re absolutely ready to make an informed, deliberate final decision.
This means your job is to traverse as many of these decision points as possible without giving up the power to continue negotiating. Very frequently, your interlocutor will try to trick you into making a decision, or tie you to a decision you didn’t commit to. You must keep verbally jiu-jitsu-ing out of these antics until you’re actually ready to make your final decision.
There’s an uncomfortable silence by now, and their “what do you think’” is hanging in the air.
If you say “yes, that sounds amazing, when do I start’” you implicitly accept the offer and completely close the door on the negotiation. This is your recruiter’s number one favorite thing to hear. It stands to reason you probably shouldn’t do this.
But their second favorite thing to hear you say is “can you do 90K instead of 85K’” This also closes the door, but for a different and more subtle reason. And it’s the number one reason why most people suck at negotiation.
Rule #3 of negotiating: information is power. To protect your power in the negotiation, you must protect information as much as possible.
A company doesn’t give you insight into what it’s thinking. It doesn’t tell you its price range, how much it paid the previous candidate with your experience, or anything like that. It intentionally obfuscates those things. But it wants you not to do the same.
A company wants to be like a bidder in a secret auction. But unlike the other bidders, it wants to know exactly how high all of the other bids are. It then openly intends to exploit that knowledge, often by bidding one cent more than the second highest bid.
Yeah, no. Screw that. It’s a silent auction, and to keep it that way, you must protect information.
In many situations, the only reason why you have any negotiating power at all is because the employer doesn’t actually know what you’re thinking. They might not know how good your other offers are, or how much you were making in your last job, or how you weigh salary vs equity, or even how rational you are as a decision-maker. Bottom line, you want them to be uncertain on exactly what it would take to sign you.
When you say “can you do 90K instead of 85K,” you’ve told them exactly what it will take to make you sign. The sheet’s pulled back, the secret auction is up, and they’re going to bid 90K (or more likely, 87K). And they know there’s almost no risk in doing so, because you’ll probably accept.
What if you were the kind of person who wouldn’t even consider an offer below 110K’ Or the kind of person who wouldn’t consider an offer below 120K’ If you were, you wouldn’t ask for 90K, and if they offered it as conciliation, you’d tell them to stop wasting your time.
By staying silent, they don’t actually know which of those kinds of people you are. In their mind, you could be any of the three.
A corollary of this rule is that you should not reveal to companies what you’re currently making. There are some exceptions, but as a rule you should assume this. If you must divulge what you’re making, you should be liberal in noting the total value of your package (incorporate bonuses, unvested stock, nearness to promotion etc.), and always mention it in a context like “[XYZ] is what I’m currently making, and I’m definitely looking for a step up in my career for my next role.”
Companies will ask about your current compensation at different stages in the process — some before they ever interview you, some after they decide to make you an offer. But be mindful of this, and protect information.
So given this offer, don’t ask for more money or equity or anything of the sort. Don’t comment on any specific details of the offer except to clarify them.
Give away nothing. Retain your power.
“Yeah, [COMPANY_NAME] sounds great! I really thought this was a good fit, and I’m glad that you guys agree. Right now I’m talking with a few other companies so I can’t speak to the specific details of the offer until I’m done with the process and get closer to making a decision. But I’m sure we’ll be able to find a package that we’re both happy with, because I really would love to be a part of the team.”
Think like the watermelon farmer. This offer is just is the first businessman who’s stopped by your watermelon patch, glanced over your crops, and announced “I’ll take all of these right now for $2 a melon.”
Cool. It’s a big market, and you’re patient — you’re a farmer after all. Just smile and tell them you’ll keep their offer in mind.
And this is super important: always be unequivocally positive.
The importance of positivity
Staying positive is rule #4 of negotiation. Even if the offer sucks, it’s extremely important to remain positive and excited about the company. This is because your excitement is one of your most valuable assets in a negotiation.
A company is making you an offer because they think you’ll do hard work for them if they pay you. If you lose your excitement for the company during the interview process, then they’ll lose confidence that you’ll actually want to work hard or stay there for a long time. Each of those makes you less attractive as an investment. Remember, you are the product! If you become less excited, then the product you’re selling actually loses value.
Imagine you were negotiating with someone over buying your watermelons, but the negotiation took so long that by the time you’d reached an agreement, your watermelons had gone bad.
Companies are terrified of that. They don’t want their candidates to go bad during a negotiation. Hence why they hire professional recruiters to manage the process and make sure they remain amicable. You and the recruiter share the same interest in that regard. If a company feels like you’ve gone bad, suddenly they’re a lot less willing to pay for you.
So despite whatever is happening in the negotiation, give the company the impression that 1) you still like the company, and that 2) you’re still excited to work there, even if the numbers or the money or the timing is not working out. Generally the most convincing thing to signal this is to reiterate you love the mission, the team, or the problem they’re working on, and really want to see things work out.
Don’t be the decision-maker
You can wrap up the conversation now by saying:
“I’ll look over some of these details and discuss it with my [FAMILY / CLOSE_FRIENDS / SIGNIFICANT_OTHER]. I’ll reach out to you if I have any questions. Thanks so much for sharing the good news with me, and I’ll be in touch!”
So not only are you ending the conversation with the power all in your hands, but note there’s another important move here: you’re roping in other decision-makers.
Rule #5 of negotiation: don’t be the decision-maker. Even if you don’t particularly care what your friends/family/husband/mother thinks, by mentioning them, you’re no longer the only person the recruiter needs to win over. There’s no point in them trying to bully and intimidate you; the “true decision-maker” is beyond their reach.
This is a classic technique in customer support and remediation. It’s never the person on the phone’s fault, they’re just some poor schmuck doing their job. It’s not their decision to make. This helps to defuse tension and give them more control of the situation.
It’s much harder to pressure someone if they’re not the final decision-maker. So take advantage of that.
We have our first offer. Send a follow-up e-mail confirming all of the details you discussed with your recruiter so you have a paper trail. Just say “just wanted to confirm I had all the details right.”
Groovy. Next step is to leverage this to land other offers and find the best deal we can find in the job market.
Getting other offers
Turns out, it doesn’t matter that much where your first offer is from, or even how much they’re offering you. Just having an offer in hand will get the engine running.
If you’re already in the pipeline with other companies (which you should be if you’re doing it right), you should proactively reach out and let them know that you’ve just received an offer. Try to build a sense of urgency. Regardless of whether you know the expiration date, all offers expire at some point, so take advantage of that.
I just wanted to update you on my own process. I’ve just received an offer from [COMPANY] which is quite strong. That said, I’m really excited about [YOUR AMAZING COMPANY] and really want to see if we can make it work. Since my timeline is now compressed, is there anything you can do to expedite the process’”
Should you specifically mention the company that gave you an offer’ Depends. If it’s a well-known company or a competitor, then definitely mention it. If it’s a no-name or unsexy company, you should just say you received an offer. If it’s expiring soon, you should mention that as well.
Either way, send out a letter like this to every single company you’re talking to. No matter how hopeless or pointless you think your application is, you want to send this signal to everyone who is considering you in the market.
Second, if there are any other companies you are looking to apply to (whether through referral or cold application), or even companies at which you’ve already applied but haven’t heard back, I would also follow up with a similar e-mail.
So why do this’ Isn’t this tacky, annoying, or even desperate’
None of the above. It is the oldest method in history to galvanize a marketplace — show that supplies are limited and build urgency. Demand breeds demand. Not every company will respond to this, but many will.
Isn’t it stupid that companies respond to this though’
Why companies care about other offers
I mentioned how having an offer from Google made companies turn around and expedite me through their funnels. Many commentators lamented at the capriciousness of these companies. If Uber or Twitch only talked to me because of Google and until then weren’t willing to look at me, what did that say about their hiring processes’ What legitimately are they evaluating, if anything at all’
I think this response is totally backwards. The behavior of tech companies here is actually very rational, and you would do well to understand it.
First, you must realize what a company’s goal is. A company’s goal is to hire someone who will become an effective employee and produce more value than their cost. How do you figure out who will do that’ Well, you can’t know for certain without actually hiring them, but there are a few proxies. Pedigree is the strongest signal; if they did it at other companies, they can probably do it at yours. And if someone trusted within the organization can vouch for them, that’s often a strong signal as well.
But turns out, almost everything else is a weak signal. Weak in the sense that it’s just not very reliable. Interviews, if you think about it, are long, sweaty, uncomfortable affairs that only glancingly resemble actual employment. They’re weird and can’t tell you that much about whether an individual will be a good at their job. There’s no way around this. There are a few stronger signals, like bringing someone in for a week or two on a contract-to-hire position, but strong candidates won’t consider this. So candidates as a whole have effectively forced companies to assume almost all of the risk in hiring.
The truth is, knowing that someone has passed your interview just doesn’t saythat much about whether they’ll be a good employee. It’s as though you knew nothing about a student other than their SAT score. It’s just not a lot of data to go off.
Nobody has solved this problem. Not Google nor anyone else.
And this is precisely why it’s rational for companies to care that you’ve received other offers. They care because each company knows that their own process is noisy, and the processes of most other companies are also noisy. But a candidate having multiple offers means that they have multiple weak signals in their favor. Combined, these converge into a much stronger signal than any single interview. It’s like knowing that a student has a strong SAT score, and GPA, and won various scholarships. Sure, it’s still possible that they’re a dunce, but it’s much harder for that to be true.
This is not to say that companies respond proportionally to these signals, or that they don’t overvalue credentials and brands. They do. But caring about whether you have other offers and valuing you accordingly is completely rational.
So this is all to say — tell other companies that you’ve received offers. Give them more signal so that they know you’re a valued and compelling candidate. And understand why this changes their mind about whether to interview you.
As you continue interviewing, remember to keep practicing your interview skills. The single strongest determinant of your final offer will be the number and strength of offers that you receive.
Some advice on timing
You want to be strategic about the timing of your offers. Generally, you should try to start interviewing at larger companies earlier. Their processes are slower and their offer windows are wider (meaning they allow you more time to decide). Startups are the other way around.
Your goal should be to have as many offers overlapping at the same time as possible.
The Negotiating Mindset
Before we enter into the actual back-and-forth, I want to examine the mindset you should have as a negotiator. This applies not just to how you approach the conversation, but also to how you think about the company.
Do not fall into the trap of valuing companies solely along one dimension. That means don’t just value companies based on salary, equity, or even on prestige. Those are all important dimensions, but so are cultural fit, the challenge of the work, learning potential, later career options, quality of life, growth potential, and just overall happiness. None of these inherently trump any of the other. Anyone who tells you “just choose wherever you think you’ll be happiest” is being just as simplistic than someone who says “just choose the one that offers the most money.” All of these things matter, and your decision should be genuinely multi-dimensional.
Be open to being surprised as you explore different companies.
It’s also important to understand that companies don’t all value you along the same dimension either. That is, different companies are genuinely looking for different skills, and there are some companies at which you will be more and less valuable. Even at peer companies this is true, especially so if you have a specialized skill-set.
The more companies you talk to, the more likely you are to find a company to which you are significantly more valuable than the rest. Chances are this is where you’ll be able to negotiate your strongest offer. It might surprise you which company this turns out to be; keep an open mind, and remember that a job search is a 2-sided process.
One of the most valuable things you can do for yourself in this process is to really try to understand how employers think and what motivates them. Understanding your interlocutor is extremely important in negotiation, and we’ll be exploring that a lot in the next blog post.